From Big Fat Blog on loving vs accepting your body:
To me feeling love for the body is not as important as accepting it and honoring it. … Choosing to treat my body with respect and honor, to act lovingly towards it, is vital.
There are parts of my body I like more than others, but I have to say that I feel very accepting of mine. Part of that is because I am an old lady who wears purple … it’s very freeing to be past the age where your biological clock has stopped ticking so loudly. And part of it is my approach just leaves me feeling pretty damn good. I will take peace of mind over being a size 0 any day.
As an aside, I think HAES is a wonderful framework. And yet, here I am on a weight-loss journey. How do I reconcile it?
Well, I guess partially the way Debra of Just Maintaining reconciled weight loss maintenance and size acceptance:
So here I sit, living honestly a maintainer’s life (sans style), and yet knowing the veracity and compassion that is Size Acceptance. There is no question about reconciling them. They’re both truthful. I don’t need to reconcile that grass is green and the sky is blue.
For me, I suppose it’s my cockeyed optimist viewpoint. Although dieting is a terrible weight loss strategy (largely because the emphasis is typically on weight rather than health), that doesn’t necessarily mean (to me anyways) that successful weight loss is impossible.
No, I see this as a quest … one that’s a bit like a Chinese finger puzzle. As long as you try to solve the puzzle with the obvious solution, you fail. And so I persevere, exploring the less obvious.